Posts tagged love life
No one does “judgmental” like my Mom.
“Sweetheart, I don’t understand. If you were building a real relationship with this boy, then why would one text message destroy it all?”
She didn’t get it. George and I had been friends in college. We’d recently re-connected years later in New York and started having brunch, texting all the time, meeting up for drinks, swinging by our favorite burger joint, and making out. A lot. (We weren’t having sex, Mom, FYI.)
It thrilled me that maybe – maybe – we would have The Talk soon and he would become my boyfriend. How wild, hilarious, awesome and unexpected would that be, after all the years we had known each other!
Then came the text message.
DESIRE, REGRET, AND OTHER PESKY EMOTIONS
I was browsing the Greenlight Bookstore in my Brooklyn neighborhood and I came upon this incredible book of 100 short poems by Vera Pavlova, a Russian poet. While select poems of hers have been published in the US, this was her first full collection (way to go Knopf!).
I couldn’t put this tiny book and its endless wisdom down. You can look no further than the title poem (and cover art) to realize that Pavlova is in touch with truths and emotions that we women – especially – should heed.
If there is something to desire,
there will be something to regret.
If there is something to regret,
there will be something to recall.
If there is something to recall,
there was nothing to regret.
If there was nothing to regret,
there was nothing to desire.
Way to spin my mind in circles! But I know exactly what she means.